Three Magic Words
By Marty Nemko
No, not "Abracadabra, hocus pocus." If I want magical conversations, whether in business or personal interactions, I look for a way to honestly say, I respect you, I appreciate you, or I agree with you. Those three words can sometimes, like magic, turn a discussion from adversarial to collaborative, from cordial to inspired. To remind myself to use "respect," "appreciate," and "agree," there's a Post-it on the frame of my computer monitor bearing just those words. Hotel chain founder, Bill Marriott offers a variation. He says that the four most important words are, "What do you think?"
What can you do today?
On a post-it or slip of paper, write:
- What do you think?
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